Organ Piece: Reprise

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A little over a year ago I wrote a piece on the newly introduced opt-out system of organ donation that had come into force across Wales, now a year on I take a look at how the whole system is shaping up.

For those that don’t know, the Welsh government introduced regulations that meant when a person dies the NHS assumes consent for posthumous organ donation. People can opt out of this at any time and families can say that they don’t wan’t to go ahead with the donation, but otherwise when possible, healthy organs will be put to use for the benefit of as many people as possible.

So here we are a little over a year later and where do things stand?  In the last year there have been approximately 160 organ transplants in Wales, with almost 25% (39 transplants in total) coming from presumed consent. On the face of it, that sort of growth from any government scheme is a marvelous result, but in actual human terms that is 39 people who are alive today because of presumed consent.

As an idea I was a little bit dubious as to how it would play out, but I am quite happy to see that my cynicism was unfounded only about 6% (approximately 180,000 people) of Welsh citizens have opted out of the system, many of which are for religious purposes as opposed to pure selfishness. If for whatever reason you feel that you do not wish to donate your organs after you pass on, you can register your decision here.

On a personal note I do feel that this is the way forward, as a society we should be promoting this sort of model to the rest of the United Kingdom and then be pushing it further, to all parts of the earth. It isn’t just Wales that is benefiting from this new system however, many surplus organs are being sent to hospitals within England, for use by patients, that otherwise would have been stuck on waiting lists, possibly for the rest of their lives.

I know it is a tricky thing to navigate, especially as families may not wish to discuss it, the subject of death is never pleasant, but you should make your wishes known, especially if you want to help people, and especially if you want to make your death mean something.

 

The Lazy Ramblings Of A Lazy Guy (On Being In Love)

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I was recently introduced to the Idle Thoughts Of An Idle Fellow by Jerome K Jerome. The book consists of 14 essays on 14 topics

  1. ON BEING IDLE.
  2. ON BEING IN LOVE.
  3. ON BEING IN THE BLUES.
  4. ON BEING HARD UP.
  5. ON VANITY AND VANITIES.
  6. ON GETTING ON IN THE WORLD.
  7. ON THE WEATHER.
  8. ON CATS AND DOGS.
  9. ON BEING SHY.
  10. ON BABIES.
  11. ON EATING AND DRINKING.
  12. ON FURNISHED APARTMENTS.
  13. ON DRESS AND DEPORTMENT.
  14. ON MEMORY.

Jerome K Jerome is pretty much me down to a tee. He’s lazy and just writes whatever comes to mind. He doesn’t care who he offends, and I often felt that he may have been somewhat high when he picked up the pen. But Mr Jerome has inspired me, so I am going to be writing a series of posts on the topics that Mr Jerome turned his hand at. (I know I’m ripping the guy off, but quite frankly I don’t care)

On Being In Love 

Have you ever seen someone and known that they would be a terrible distraction to your life. That was how I would describe it, that feeling of knowing that this person is going to really change your life. That knowledge that this is going to be massively inconvenient.

That’s how it all begins then you slip into it, the early days are all wine and dinner and flowers and dancing, but then comes the big pants and netflix, the cups of tea, the farting and the lack of make up, if you can get through that, that is true love. The enduring real world version of the thing.

Foreigner wanted to know what love is, well its two people who have decided to just give up and settle with each other because they find the other person somewhat less detestable than the rest of humanity, that my friends is love.

This is the second in series of posts ripping off the work of Mr Jerome K Jerome and his seminal piece The Idle Thoughts Of An Idle Man.

 

The Lazy Ramblings of A Lazy Guy (On Being Idle)

 

The Man Down My Local (1).pngI was recently introduced to the Idle Thoughts Of An Idle Fellow by Jerome K Jerome. The book consists of 14 essays on 14 topics

  1. ON BEING IDLE.
  2. ON BEING IN LOVE.
  3. ON BEING IN THE BLUES.
  4. ON BEING HARD UP.
  5. ON VANITY AND VANITIES.
  6. ON GETTING ON IN THE WORLD.
  7. ON THE WEATHER.
  8. ON CATS AND DOGS.
  9. ON BEING SHY.
  10. ON BABIES.
  11. ON EATING AND DRINKING.
  12. ON FURNISHED APARTMENTS.
  13. ON DRESS AND DEPORTMENT.
  14. ON MEMORY.

Jerome K Jerome is pretty much me down to a tee. He’s lazy and just writes whatever comes to mind. He doesn’t care who he offends, and I often felt that he may have been somewhat high when he picked up the pen. But Mr Jerome has inspired me, so I am going to be writing a series of posts on the topics that Mr Jerome turned his hand at. (I know I’m ripping the guy off, but quite frankly I don’t care)

On Being Idle

Laziness is both a blessing and a curse, there is nothing more satisfying than spending a day lazing about on the sofa, especially when you know that there are plenty of more important things that you could be doing, and therein lies the curse. Having to put aside that bliss, can prove difficult and indeed a real hardship and can even lead to outright resentment. Or at least this is how I feel. I’ve now reached the point where I actually hate to have to do things. When people interrupt my doing nothing I really do get a little bit angry about the whole thing.

Since the advent of the internet the whole staying in thing really has taken off, with the world of online streaming services and takeaway foods that you don’t even have to speak to people to get, the world of insular laziness has actually become more and more of a easy thing to achieve.

Laziness and indeed idleness itself is a state of mind, its where you sacrifice any sort of social life just to achieve the pleasure that comes from doing nothing. It’s hard to get into the head space required to want to do nothing but watch Game of Thrones in your pants while eating cereal straight from the box.

There are some people who couldn’t be lazy if their lives depended on it. They just lack that lack of drive. They have too much motivation, too much determination to just get things done. The world would stop without those people, without them we wouldn’t have anything. But thanks to those people the rest of us, those lazy fellows can enjoy the things those great enablers have given us. Thanks to them we can vegetate until we fuse to with our sofas, until bed sores set in and until we have to wash ourselves with rags on sticks.

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The world takes a dim view of laziness, but to those who say this is say to you…meh I’ll tell you later.

 

This is the first in series of posts ripping off the work of Mr Jerome K Jerome and his seminal piece The Idle Thoughts Of An Idle Man. 

The Friendzone & How To Avoid It

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Does she wish all guys could be like you?  Do you like all her posts on social media? Does she love you, like a brother? If you answered yes to any of those questions, you sir are in the friendzone.

Let’s be honest, at one point or another we have all been in the friendzone. The person that we are interested in is not interested in us, except as a friend.

So here are a few tips to avoid the zone of terror.

  1. Be upfront about your intentions, don’t try and wheedle your way in as a friend, that’s a first class ticket to the friendzone.
  2. learn to recognise the signs, shopping is definitely a friend activity, going for cocktails to bitch about men is another one.
  3. Learn when to  cut your losses, if not for your sake then for everyone else’s. None of your friends want to hear about how “special” and “meaningful” your new friendship is, no one believes it, not even you do. If it isn’t going the way you want it to you owe it to yourself to get out. it isn’t worth the pain and heartache. Seriously let go.

I hope this little guide helps, but lets face it there is no reasoning with someone in the friendzone, because infatuation defies all reason. But if you do take the leap and are smacked back into the friendzone, do not under any circumstances become a bitch about it, do not think you are owed anything just because you were nice. Behaving the way in which you are meant to is not a guarantee of VIP access to someone’s genitalia, its a social convention, not a seduction technique. Don’t be a fuckboy.

 

 

I Been Spendin’ Most My Life Livin’ In This Santa’s Paradise

I had planned a blog post out in my head that would have been rather long, but I have decided to research that a little more, because today I spent the afternoon finishing off my Christmas shopping, and have spent the evening wrapping it all.

Today I’ve got through two rolls of wrapping paper and six meters of clear cellophane, this proves two things that I already knew:

  1. I really hate wrapping gifts.
  2. I really suck at wrapping gifts.

But I suppose that’s what the festive season is all about, that and getting so drunk that you lose control of your bladder and eating so much you run the risk of gaining your own orbit.

It’s All Gone To Pot, The Case For Legal Cannabis

Should marijuana be legal? There are a lot more harmful substances on the market, whose negative effects are well documented (tobacco and alcohol among them). My main concerns are threefold.

Firstly the amount of money being spent on prosecuting cases of possession, recreational use and manufacture of all drugs, cost the UK government approximately £16 billion year on year. Decriminalisation of possession would save the government over £10 billion, would make up for the fact that the Police and The Crown Prosecution Service have such appalling conviction rates in the first place.

Secondly if marijuana were to be legalised for recreational purposes the amount of revenue the government could raise in taxes would make even Scrooge McDuck Blush. Using a similar taxation model to tobacco the government could net £10’s of billions. Tobacco brought in £2.6 billion in VAT and £9.7 billion in excise taxes during the 2012-2013 tax year.

Thirdly the use of medical cannabis is now available in Canada, Israel and Uruguay, 23 states of the U.S.A, and its use has been decriminalised in many countries across Europe. Its use as a source of pain relief for chronic illnesses and research is well documented and has been effective in the treatment of cancer, dementia, diabetes, epilepsy, glaucoma, and many other ailments. Why should British patients be denied treatment due preconceived opinions that are based on misinformation?

There you have it. Three compelling reasons for the legalisation of cannabis, if the human aspect doesn’t reach you, then maybe the financial arguments will get to you.

As a parting thought I will also add, now that Britain will no longer be receiving EU farm subsidies, maybe this would be a good way for the UK agricultural industry to stay afloat, it would probably create a lot of jobs (think packaging, distribution etc). So why not say yes to pot?

for more information visit medicalmarijuana.co.uk. The facts are theirs, the mistakes are mine. 

DISCLAIMER: I am in no way advocating the use of illegal substances, merely raising a debate on policy reform in the United Kingdom. 

Toddlers Fashion (Dads Can Do It Too)

As a dad who is the primary care giver for a little girl I face many challenges. Withering looks from mothers, condescending remarks from health visitors and stunned disbelief from many members of the older generation, who find that yes a man, not a woman, spends the majority of his time caring for a child, and doing a pretty damn good job of it too I may add. But the biggest thing I’ve found is that people don’t seem to believe that I, a man, could pick out a fashionable and functional outfit for a young lady, in spite of being something of a dandy myself. I can stand there with a tailored suit, silk tie, matching pocket square, polished shoes, the full outfit looking on point, and yet I still make eyes roll when I say that I picked my daughters outfit.

So here are just a small selection of the chic outfits that I have managed to sling together for my little monster.

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This outfit was something I put together for Marianna to visit her Grandmother for Sunday lunch, it was simply a small cardigan over a pleated floral dress, going with a pair of frilly socks and her everyday boots (knock off Dr Martens). Whilst not overly warm it did serve as she could move about easily, and didn’t get too hot while she was chasing after her Nan’s dog.

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This dress was picked out for another trip to Nanny’s and is a lot warmer, being both lined and made from velvet, the little lace collar gives it a nice touch and I think it worked well for use with the Japanese schoolgirl style bow tie.

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This outfit was one of my favourites. Its a simple white dress with some light blue starry tights, made warmer with a close knit red cardigan. Add in the patent leather shoes and its like something out of a Cyndi Lauper video.

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When Marianna’s mother (the Deputy Mayor of Torfaen) had to launch the Royal Legion’s poppy appeal (an outdoor event at the end of October) Marianna had to look the part of the politicians daughter ,this coat over a plain dress and some simple white tights did the trick, especially when combined with patent leather shoes and her starry umbrella and hair tied back in a loose pony tail.
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One of Marianna’s outfits over the weekend, it wasn’t for anything special just a brief walk followed by some lazing about the house. its a simple white blouse with some leggings with her knock off Doc Martens, and yes those leggings do have rabbits wearing glasses on them. Perfect for running about, sitting on her backside or getting in to all kinds of trouble.

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Marianna’s outfit for yesterday, just another day of sitting about the house doing sweet FA, it was a pair of plain white socks, stripey leggings and a beige t-shirt made warmer by a matching poncho, and instead of doing anything fancy with her hair, I just put it in pigtails, hair is something I’m not good at.

So there you have it. Definitive proof that a heterosexual man can pick perfectly fashion forward outfits for a little girl.